Redditors Talk Feels After First Cheat

It’s about what you’d expect

If you want to keep your finger on the pulse of Adulteryland, Reddit’s r/adultery is where to look. There are 129K members there, all interested in one thing — cheating.

This Redditor had never crossed the line, but had cheated online and was wondering what was on the other side of the looking glass.

I don’t mean like feelings of regret, or anything like that. Did you feel justified after the fact? Did your desire to cheat increase? Decrease?

Let me explain why I ask. I’ve been on this journey since maybe 2018. Other than meeting one potential AP for coffee (who then promptly ghosted me lol), I’ve only ever had online AP’s. I stuck with that for a while because I thought that would be enough to quench my need to seek satisfaction outside of my marriage. But now, I feel like that’s not doing enough for me and I’m ready to take the plunge of finally meeting people in person, if I can, and I find myself wondering how I’m going to feel after it finally happens.

Am I going to feel a desire to end my marriage? Am I going to get it out of my system? Obviously, the way anyone else is affected has no bearing on how I will feel, but I am curious about the breadth of experiences people here have had after finally pulling the trigger in person for the first time. Thank you, and good luck everyone!

Redditor — I felt good! No guilt and completely justified after years of being denied that basic human need. But that’s me…I feel like there are as many reasons and reactions to doing this as there are individuals doing it.

Redditor — Exhilarated, because I had confirmation that I was still beautiful and wanted.

Redditor — Felt alive. Loved it. No guilt.

Redditor — This will depend on your situation. Of all the people I’ve chatted with through the years as APs or pAPs only two said they cried afterwards. The rest wrestled with their issues and either justified or compartmentalized. I will say it can make you want it more after you have that first real fling. Be careful because once you do it you…

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